Do You Suffer The Danger Of Having Too Many Choices?

The dilemma of choiceThe Danger Of Having Too Many Choices

With too many choices, it is easy to get lost in the paralysis of analysis. Not having focus dilutes outcomes. I need to find a way to make the decision of what is most important first. Do you ever ask that question? I do all the time and I’ve found a way for me to answer that question that works.

What do I want to do when I grow up?

That is a funny question to ask since I have just turned 55. When will I grow up? Do I want to grow up? What does being grown up look like?

If it looks like settling,
If it means compromise,
If it demands to stay put in something I do not enjoy doing each day, just to get some money, then I do not want to grow up!

The trouble is, though, I am struggling. For most of my working life, I was working within an organisation as what I termed an “Intrepreneur.” Using skill set of an entrepreneur, being a self-starter, being proactive, taking appropriate risks, I have worked successfully in many organisations. However, now I find the process of being on my own, challenging because of the choices that it offers me.

More than ever in my life, avenues are open to me. I can create profitable and enjoyable work and through the web and locally around my skills of speaking, coaching and speechwriting. The problem is not finding what to do; the problem is the choice of what to do with the many options I can find. I could go many ways, and that is the dilemma. What option do I take? How do I chose which course of activity to follow? I feel like I lack the one thing that I know I need the most, and that is the focus. Without focus the good intentions we have just become lists on paper. The dreams and ideas lie dormant, locked away in the recesses of my mind, filling the museum of lost opportunities in my life. Focus is to gain success as petrol is to an engine or jam is to a doughnut. (That is unless you prefer custard)

So instead of being laser sharp in my intentions I can wander from one project to another. Moving each of them forward but not getting the traction that I seek.

So, I created a template called my happiness and fulfilment chart. (Let me know if you want a copy)

I wanted to plan my business around what I enjoy first, what I am skilled at and then what income streams I could develop from that. If we are fortunate to be able to get these three factors together, it is a blessing. I know that not everyone is fortunate to have a skill set that affords them these opportunities. However, there again, the world is opening up to being in business in ways never before imagined. Ideally, we need to get the “Critical Three” together.

  • Doing work that you enjoy and find meaningful.
  • Doing work that you are skilled in.
  • Doing work that someone will pay you to do.

If you can get all those together in the work that you do you are living a fulfilled life. My happiness and fulfilment chart is helping me do that. You might find it helpful too. I am not there yet, however. I know that I need to find the projects that will move my plans forward and then for a season FOCUS.

F – full attention
O – optimum earnings/activity ratio
C – consciously planned activity toward projects
U – unrelenting persistence
S – service focused

I am working towards that FOCUS. If I can help you as I work on my projects, please let me know. Email me and I’ll send you a copy.

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Posted on by Peter Billingham in Blog Posts, Happiness, Leadership

About Peter Billingham

Leader, Learner, Speechwriter, Storyteller, Author. a.k.a. 'The Artful Speaker' Enjoy working on social action projects, Toastmasters, films & adventure travel.

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